I know, the next piece of writing logically needs to be the next phase of husband & wife during quarantine. But the learning from the last few phases has been, that they have lost control. After 4 weeks of trying to figure out what is and what isn’t working, the husband & wife have reached a conclusion that, surrender is the best option now. Accept all emotions, all circumstances, accept the fact that they will not be going back to the same life again. It will be a new world they will be stepping in, whenever that happens. Thankfully, all this realization is coming majorly from the one working on self-reflection ;)
But the question remains. What are they going to pursue now? The option of looking for happiness in drinks breaks, sutta breaks, watching a live sports match, watching a new movie, planning the next vacation to ‘get away from life’, going for a party, long weekends, etc… isn’t there any more. Even, social media, isn’t an escape anymore. After 10 years of marriage & more than 10 years of courtship they are not prepared for this situation, of being at home, stuck inside four walls & with no guarantee of what is coming next. Inspiration is required to get up fresh in the morning, to sleep at night on time, to prepare and eat favorite foods, to do more than just mundane now. Where does one get the inspiration from? How do they motivate each other to be at their best? How do they deal with the panic set in around the world, at the same be motivated, inspire self and others who love them? What is the solution?
Stop reading, if you think, you are going to find a solution for yourself here. The very fact of seeking solutions from the outside has been eradicated above.
The pursuit, they think is probably larger than life, the life which they have lived till now. All the seemingly important things have been deemed meaningless in this current state. What were they holding onto? Holding on to their car? Can they drive anymore to anyplace they want right now? Holding onto their expensive clothes & watches? Have they picked anything other than the most comfortable rags to wear at home? Have the watches even come out of their drawers? Holding onto their expensive accessories/jewelry? Have they even put on a ring briefly at home? Craving for expensive canned & exotic food? Aren’t they surviving, in fact thriving on a minimalist diet and with better health? So, what is that, which is larger than life? Life as they have known till now? Where does true happiness lie for them? Shall they stop being happy as the stuff & circumstances that made them happy do not exist right now?
When they share a smile with each other, it is for sure not because of fulfillment of a certain thing. It is the company, the being in now, which brought a moment of happiness for them. So, maybe, happiness does not lie after we complete or achieve or fulfill something. Maybe, It lies in just being. Being in the present moment, and choosing to be happy in that moment.
